A Dozen Good Eggs

Thursday, October 31, 2013

FAQ or the things big families hear all the time

Wow! you have HOW many?     We have 10. Yes we know its unusual, but not THAT unusual.

Do you homeschool them all?   No, they all go to public school locally. We aren't against homeschool it just doesn't work for us.

Are they all yours?   Yes they are all mine. Some were born to me, some were born to another mother but they are all mine.

Where are their real parents? we ARE their real parents, we are the ones wiping the snot cleaning up the vomit driving to a million appointments. yes We are their real parents.

Are they brothers and sisters?  See above.

I don't know how you do it!   Do what? get them out the door in the morning? cook them dinner? love them? You raise ten kids the same way you raise 2. You get out of bed in the morning and put one foot in front of the other. You love them, you help them, you take interest in them and what they are doing.

How much did they cost?  They were free. We did however have to pay for various documents and preparations as well as travel to bring them home. but they are worth a million bucks.

Why do you have so many?  Look at them. seeing their faces, knowing their names, knowing what their future would have been without us, we really could not walk away and ignore their existence. Boy are we glad we didn't!

I couldn't do what you do!  sure you could. the learning curve isn't that steep.

Are you going to have more?  I don't know. Some days I think maybe. Some days I think NO WAY! but mostly it isn't anyone's business but ours if we choose to add to our family.

What's wrong with your little girl in the wheelchair? Nothing is WRONG but she has arthrogryposis, That means she was born with joint contractures. Similar to cp except it happens long before birth instead of AT birth.

Will she ever walk? She will do whatever she wants to do. She has the drive and determination to climb any mountain she wants.

Some people get upset when others ask questions. I don't. its natural to be curious. People don't usually stop us on the street to ask but when we interact with them they will find a way to ask. I like to tell people we have multiple multiples(we have many kids the same ages) and they assume we had twins or triplets along the way. It's even more fun when they ask when they were born and you tell them different months.


  1. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for not being offended when we ask questions!

  2. Im proud of my family, why would I miss a chance to talk about them?! = )

  3. I have never commented but have followed your blog for quite a while (started when you were bringing Sophie and Ben home) and love hearing about your kids. I work in an orphanage (I'm a nun) in Bolivia and know firsthand what a huge difference there is between "orphanage" (even the very best, most loving ones) and "family"--we try to keep ours as close to family as possible but always rejoice when our girls can have their very own families.
    Thanks for sharing and keeping it real! I particularly loved the comment about how much your kids cost--perfect answer. :)
    God bless you and your family.
    - Sr. Anna Kupin

  4. Thank you so much for your comment. I had no idea people were still reading that were reading way back then!