A Dozen Good Eggs

Saturday, October 27, 2012

it has come to my attention

That everyone is in agreement that all of my oldest kids problems are my fault because we adopted"those other kids. ". I'm hurt and disappointed. Chrysta has gone to live at her dads. She is apparently embarrassed by her siblings. Wow. Never saw that coming but parents do not need permission from children to make life decisions. Although we DID ask their input about adopting. If I had given birth to them I wonder if everyone would feel the same.  My adopted kids have problems. We all have problems. Noone has a perfect life. One of chrysta's problem is refusing to be a participatory member of our family. I don't think that happened because we have other kids.  she was never an easy child. Maybe as infant. Started lieing at 4 and never stopped.  I'm sad and hurt that she chose to leave to live with her on again off again dad but I hope she finds happiness in her solitude. And I hope her dad who has never been a full time parent knows what a wild ride he is in for. I fully believe she will lie to him.  she will rage when she doesn't get her way.  I only hope she doesn't become pregnant.  I don't believe her issues come from a large family. Its genetic. And I really truly hope they are happy living together.


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  2. Wow...sure sounds like a lot going on. I would suspect that Chrysta sees this chance to live at her dads as being a "better" life...because we all know its greener on the other side of the fence. (Right?!?!) Maybe being an only child for a while over there will help her to realize just how much shes missing being a part of her siblings lives. Teenage years can be so tough too, My daughter is turning 13 and I also have a son who'se turning 3. Her brother was born only a year after we brought her home and shes adjusted to that but now I'm pregnant again...I can tell shes struggling with accepting another sibling. Change and anything outside of "its all about me" mindset in a teen is really hard for them to grasp. I think you're doing a fantastic job with all of your kids and just because they're learning how to cope and dealing with some problems does NOT make it your fault in any way. Moms usually end up taking the hardest of rejections from their kids...just hope that one day she (They all) will become parents and realize just how much a mom or dad sacrifices and wants the very best for each of their kids. :)

  3. thanks for the support Catherine! and congrats on your pregnancy!