This blog is about our adventures as a large family. We have fourteen kids in our family. Not every one lives at home. Sometimes life is easy and sometimes its weary to the bone hard.
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Gearing up!
getting ready for the big pout!(aka Christmas) There is no way on this green earth that I can make everyone happy. I tried. but I know that someone is going to pout. I dont yet know which one. but someone is going to pout. the wrong color, the wrong style, someone else got more, why didnt I get____? and I have to go to the store still for dinner supplies and my car needs repair and there is a layer of ice over everything. I wanted to go out today and get a few more things as I have nothing for my husband. I guess I will just wrap a big bow around me and I am all he gets. maybe saran wrap like in fried green tomatoes lol. it really sucks living so far from everything. and the kids need gifts for school tomorrow. since when did school become a gift giving occasion? I find it rather annoying that I am constantly asked to supply money for food, supply snack food, and buy things. so I have to come up with 7 under 3 dollar gifts for school tomorrow. and yes I knew last week but I havent BEEN anywhere that I could get them! I live in a rural community. no target here. no kmart. no walmart. Then again what kid wouldnt want a bag of candy, the grocery store has candy. I am sure I will screw that up too. It seems I can never do right of late. someone is always mad at me or sulking or refusing to eat what I cook. one sulks and takes it out on the others, never direcing her anger to me. one will out and out ask why didnt you do this or that like I wanted? one will stomp off to his room and slam the door. one will cry like a baby as if he has been terribly wronged. so yes I am preparing for Christmas, the sulkiest day of the year!
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It's tough trying to make everyone happy! I think you should just plan to be happy yourself and realize that other people's happiness is not your responsibility; they must accept that happiness is not dependent on things or other people. A very difficult concept for anyone and especially for kids. It is very difficult not to take their responses personally, but if you can separate your feelings from their reactions it may defuse the situation. As far as meals, well, you prepare a meal and if they don't want it, they can go without. Eventually they will learn to eat what is put in front of them. Also, they need to learn that slamming doors and sulking is not appropriate, and if they need to sulk then they do it either in their room or outside. I feel for you through this tough time. Adding one child to a family is a huge adjustment. Can't imagine the intracasies of adding multiples! God bless. and I hope you have a happy Christmas, and that the sulking is minimal. PS If they don't approve of the Christmas presents, offer to give the gifts away - plenty of kids would appreciate them!
ReplyDeletethanks. its only one kid who slams doors and he has anger issues we constantly battle. the sulking I usually ignore unless its taken out on another child. sulking isnt going to get them what they want with me. my husband is the pushover in this family not me lol. I am tough with them. they toe the line. and you are so right. I will be happy. I always love christmas the tree the lights the snow the memories of my own childhood christmases and anyone who wants to burst my bubble can be forewarned it wont work. here's hoping it goes well. if it doesnt, well they are kids right? there's always tomorrow, and the next day, and next year.
ReplyDeleteHow can it be a bad Christmas when you have added four great, wonderful kids to your family. Sure some pout but so did my kids. Santa is suppose to bring stuff you want and if it is not there, of course, they are disappointed. On the flip side you have 10 great kids most of them happy as clams with what they get. Be happy and enjoy the stress of the holiday because the kids will be grown up very soon and you and Eric will be empty nesters and will miss the pouting and behavior you're getting.
ReplyDeleteGive them all a hug from Uncle Bob and Aunt Jeanne (even Cody) and tell them we love them.
oh bob it wont be a BAD christmas, I am just sayin there WILL be whining and pouting, so I am gearing up. Andre especially is still under the impression that we are made of money and anything he wants he should be given on a golden platter. even if he never asked for it, we are supposed to read his mind. like the car he wanted for his birthday, and two months later says why didnt you buy me a car? umm didnt know you wanted one!
ReplyDeleteI know it will be a great Christmas and when they start to whine, tell them it was not your fault - I was Santa's fault they didn't get ______ (fill in the blanks). He get the credit so he should take some of the blame.
ReplyDeleteToo funny. I've threatened the Fried Green Tomato thing to my husband too.
ReplyDeleteYou're right, it will be nearly impossible to make so many people happy. I am thinking the very same thing right now.